The questions are rolling in.....I love it....Thanks!!
Dear V,
Would you date your brothers ex?
-Curious and would like your input
Dear curious,
I am going to answer this question using the term "brother's ex" even though I am a straight female.
First of all, I don't care how hot my brothers ex is, she is an ex therefore I HATE HER STINKING GUTS!!! Don't you hate the ex/skank/loser/two-timer/etc. as much as your brother does? This is my family, my blood, and there is a reason they are no longer together and chances are, it was not my brothers fault......at least in my mind! I believe that there is a code of ethics that friends and family should live by. If I had her 1st, she is off limits! It's that simple. You have to grow up and take into consideration feelings of others at some point in your life. Besides that.....gross! Ewww.....to boldly go where your brother has already been.....and you're gonna put your mouth on that or on what? There is only one thing I would be able to think about while even attempting it.....my sibling and that my friend is about as bad is it can possibly be. There are reasons God gave us siblings and friends. They are there for you when no one else is. They pick you up when you fall. I know from a personal standpoint that neither my family or my friends would ever cross that line. Furthermore, they know that if they did.....we are enemies! In fact, if I hate someone, they hate said someone. Hate is a strong word but the quickest way to become hated is to hurt my family or my friends. We may have never even met but if you hurt them, gloves are off!
For a moment ask yourself this question.......how would I feel if my brother decided to date one of my ex's? I am pretty sure the "seeing red" feeling is coming out, the body temp is rising to a boiling point, the fist clench instantly. It is not an emotion you can help and you're not supposed to be able to do so. It is part of being a human. There is however an emotion you can help and that is the beginning stage of a relationship and "lust." You never should have allowed yourself to get to the point that you are interested in your brothers ex on any level other than "your brothers girlfriend or whats now become ex." How enjoyable family Christmas shall be. "Mom, dad, you remember so-n-so......oh yes, you're the one that screwed over my OTHER son.....would you like some mashed potatoes or stuffing?" *awkward*
Bottom line is it is wrong. There are millions of other girls out there in this world that are 100 times better than this option. But, if you feel it is an absolute necessity, at least be man enough to confront your brother before you make such a move. Get his permission respectfully. You don't want to end up on the next episode of Jerry Springer, its a tacky show! If you have his permission than do what you must but there will never be a day when it is ok to talk about how she is in bed or her emotions or really anything about your relationship. And, if you feel like being that brave, be fully prepared to take a hard punch to the face and get knocked the f*** out and understand you are to stand still and take it like a man. You deserve it!!
Good luck!!
Miss ~V~
So I asked a question on facebook the other day.....tell me your situation or ask me something that I can put my opinion on. I am soooo ready to open this up!
Dear V, How can I deal with after 9 years of being with someone who wouldn't commit and a very hard breakup, I saw him with a much younger hotter girl and wanted to cry and throw up at the same time.
Sweet!!! I love relationship questions! hehehe
Dear under confident and hurt, (and yes, I delegated you that name all by myself)
Here is the problem.....9 years and no commitment? WTF are you so upset about? Is it the fact that you gave him 9 years and he wouldn't give you anything in return or is it the fact that you wasted the last 9 years of your life and you'll never get them back? There is a commitment level every couple achieves! For some it takes a while, for others it takes no time at all. 9 years my friend is a little ridiculous! I personally don't feel you should be upset in a hurt form. Pissed off, yeah maybe but not just at him....you did let it go on for that long!! That fact that he is with a much younger woman should tell you something....."he has zero intent of ever committing" that is why he has to go younger! 9 years from now she will be wondering the same thing you are. As for her being hotter......dearest.....get your confidence back up and take a second look! You'll find, she is only hotter because your down on yourself. Also,as I said in my last blog "our parents taught us very well to share and throw away our broken toys! He's broken....he's a toy.....throw him away.....let her have him! There are plenty of other men out there that will settle down and commit to being on the same level as you want to be. In fact, you spent way to much time waiting for him to get on the same level as you! You are hurting right now and I understand that so it is time to pick yourself up and do what every other woman does when they get their heart broke! Call your girlfriends, hire some strippers, drink way to much wine, and get yourself some strange......everybody needs a lil strange!!! hahaha no I am just kidding.......don't hire strippers! Actually, you're single.....do what you want! It is a beautiful thing. You officially only have to answer to yourself! Take some time to get to know yourself because after spending the last 9 years trying to get someone to commit to marriage, you probably have no clue who you are anymore!
Once you feel you know and love yourself again, get back out there! Its a huge world of fish out there but watch out for crabs .......sharks! And when you do, don't look to 1-up your ex......find someone true....someone you love.....someone on the same page. And then, when you see your ex, use that big beautiful confident smile every time you see him. It's your way to let him know "you're doing so much better without him!" And if that smile doesn't work, God also gave you 2 middle fingers.....and who doesn't like a lil sign language in their lives! Let em fly!!!
I felt like since tomorrow is Valentines day I should throw something together real quick. First a message for my single friends, "DO NOT get upset or jealous over what your ex is getting his new girl/guy. Our parents taught us very well to share and to throw away our broken toys. There is nothing wrong with letting him/her have your broken old run down toy! Also, let the couples have their day......the other 364 are all ours!!!!"
Now, don't get me wrong with what I am about to say, I love, love, love, getting flowers sent to me. I think it is the most romantic thing a guy can do for you. It just says "I am thinking about you in the most amazing way!" However, I think Valentines day is the STUPIDEST holiday we celebrate! Really, one day a year to dedicate to the one you love? What happens on the other 364 days? Its ludicrous! Send me flowers on one of the other days of the year that isn't my birthday, mothers day, or valentines day and guess what....I am impressed!!! And for you ladies, when is the last time you sent your man flowers? I know it sounds stupid but instead of waiting at work or home for your flowers to arrive why don't you wait at home or work for your man to call you and say "you've totally embarrassed and flattered me today.....I love you sooooo much!" Woohoo guess who is getting lucky tonight? oohhh laa-laa mmm hmmm Guess who has to do the "you know what" for you tonight! Turn those tables girl and make him thank you! How fun it would have to be, to be the FedEx guy that gets to deliver all those packages to your guy! "ummmm here ya go dude" *awkward* I wonder if the FedEx guy ever gets flowers himself "special delivery to............me"
Just for you, I have enclosed some do's and dont's I thought you may enjoy! I will leave it up to you to decide which ones are the do's and the dont's
Here are some pick-up lines....yes I have heard them all..... and for the record.....only one of them worked!
*Do you have a mirror in your pocket, cause I could see myself in your pants.
*I'm a hurdle, do you want to jump me?
*Was your father a thief? 'cause someone stole the stars from the sky to put in your eyes.
*Should I call you in the morning or nudge you
*Sex is a killer... want to die happy?
*If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?
*Nice shoes, wanna shag?
*How about a pizza and a shag? What's wrong, don't you like pizza?
*Smile if you want to sleep with me. ding ding ding winner winner!!! How do you not smile at that!?!?!?!?!
*Come over and sit on my lap, and we'll talk about the first thing that pops up.
*That dress would look great on the floor next to my bed
*I reckon your the worst person to play hide and seek with?? cause theres nowhere on earth that can hide your beauty
*You just went to the top of my to-do list
*You just turned my software into hardware
*Do you have a library card? Cause I'm checking you out
If you bought your girl the following Valentines day gifts......take them back immediately!
1. Lingerie.....First of all, Valentines day is not all about getting laid but you sure did just make her feel like that is all you give a damn about! And, God help you son if you have purchased the wrong size! What a way to ruin your womans confidence.....3 negatives can come from this A, "she can't fit into this sexy crap" or B, "did you really think that she was that huge you inconsiderate bastard?" and C, couch for you and no nukie bahaha!!
2. Vacuum cleaner.....nothing says I love you more than "woman clean the damn house!" hahaa boy, make your bed on the couch!!
3. Anything related to working out! Scales, treadmills, bikes, workout DVD's etc. Valentine's Day is an opportunity to make the love of your life feel like she's beyond perfect in your mind. You want to aim for romance, unconditional love and devotion. But the message you're sending with a fitness, diet or other self-help gift is "If you weren't such a blankety blank blank, you'd be getting flowers and chocolate. Sorry, better luck next year."
4. Something for yourself.....examples; X Box, Playstation, Wii, OMG you are dead in the water......There is no way to switch that to a gift for her. There will be no way to convince her that you want her to play video games with you! On the flip side, you'll have a more pleasant night on the couch!
5. The worst possible thing you could show up with on Valentines day is......NOTHING! No matter what show up with something. Even if it is a homemade card! If you walk into that with nothing you may as well have just taken the front line of US Army going to battle! Couch....you should be so lucky!
Happy Valentines day to all you love birds,
Miss ~V~
