"Would you date your brothers ex?"

The questions are rolling in.....I love it....Thanks!!

Dear V,
Would you date your brothers ex?
-Curious and would like your input

Dear curious,
I am going to answer this question using the term "brother's ex" even though I am a straight female.

First of all, I don't care how hot my brothers ex is, she is an ex therefore I HATE HER STINKING GUTS!!! Don't you hate the ex/skank/loser/two-timer/etc. as much as your brother does? This is my family, my blood, and there is a reason they are no longer together and chances are, it was not my brothers fault......at least in my mind! I believe that there is a code of ethics that friends and family should live by. If I had her 1st, she is off limits! It's that simple. You have to grow up and take into consideration feelings of others at some point in your life. Besides that.....gross! Ewww.....to boldly go where your brother has already been.....and you're gonna put your mouth on that or on what? There is only one thing I would be able to think about while even attempting it.....my sibling and that my friend is about as bad is it can possibly be. There are reasons God gave us siblings and friends. They are there for you when no one else is. They pick you up when you fall. I know from a personal standpoint that neither my family or my friends would ever cross that line. Furthermore, they know that if they did.....we are enemies! In fact, if I hate someone, they hate said someone. Hate is a strong word but the quickest way to become hated is to hurt my family or my friends. We may have never even met but if you hurt them, gloves are off!

For a moment ask yourself this question.......how would I feel if my brother decided to date one of my ex's? I am pretty sure the "seeing red" feeling is coming out, the body temp is rising to a boiling point, the fist clench instantly. It is not an emotion you can help and you're not supposed to be able to do so. It is part of being a human. There is however an emotion you can help and that is the beginning stage of a relationship and "lust." You never should have allowed yourself to get to the point that you are interested in your brothers ex on any level other than "your brothers girlfriend or whats now become ex." How enjoyable family Christmas shall be. "Mom, dad, you remember so-n-so......oh yes, you're the one that screwed over my OTHER son.....would you like some mashed potatoes or stuffing?" *awkward*

Bottom line is it is wrong. There are millions of other girls out there in this world that are 100 times better than this option. But, if you feel it is an absolute necessity, at least be man enough to confront your brother before you make such a move. Get his permission respectfully. You don't want to end up on the next episode of Jerry Springer, its a tacky show! If you have his permission than do what you must but there will never be a day when it is ok to talk about how she is in bed or her emotions or really anything about your relationship. And, if you feel like being that brave, be fully prepared to take a hard punch to the face and get knocked the f*** out and understand you are to stand still and take it like a man. You deserve it!!

Good luck!!
Miss ~V~