Relationship Q&A

So I asked a question on facebook the other day.....tell me your situation or ask me something that I can put my opinion on. I am soooo ready to open this up!

Dear V, How can I deal with after 9 years of being with someone who wouldn't commit and a very hard breakup, I saw him with a much younger hotter girl and wanted to cry and throw up at the same time.

Sweet!!! I love relationship questions! hehehe

Dear under confident and hurt, (and yes, I delegated you that name all by myself)

Here is the problem.....9 years and no commitment? WTF are you so upset about? Is it the fact that you gave him 9 years and he wouldn't give you anything in return or is it the fact that you wasted the last 9 years of your life and you'll never get them back? There is a commitment level every couple achieves! For some it takes a while, for others it takes no time at all. 9 years my friend is a little ridiculous! I personally don't feel you should be upset in a hurt form. Pissed off, yeah maybe but not just at him....you did let it go on for that long!! That fact that he is with a much younger woman should tell you something....."he has zero intent of ever committing" that is why he has to go younger! 9 years from now she will be wondering the same thing you are. As for her being hotter......dearest.....get your confidence back up and take a second look! You'll find, she is only hotter because your down on yourself. Also,as I said in my last blog "our parents taught us very well to share and throw away our broken toys! He's broken....he's a toy.....throw him away.....let her have him! There are plenty of other men out there that will settle down and commit to being on the same level as you want to be. In fact, you spent way to much time waiting for him to get on the same level as you! You are hurting right now and I understand that so it is time to pick yourself up and do what every other woman does when they get their heart broke! Call your girlfriends, hire some strippers, drink way to much wine, and get yourself some strange......everybody needs a lil strange!!! hahaha no I am just kidding.......don't hire strippers! Actually, you're single.....do what you want! It is a beautiful thing. You officially only have to answer to yourself! Take some time to get to know yourself because after spending the last 9 years trying to get someone to commit to marriage, you probably have no clue who you are anymore!
Once you feel you know and love yourself again, get back out there! Its a huge world of fish out there but watch out for crabs .......sharks! And when you do, don't look to 1-up your ex......find someone true....someone you love.....someone on the same page. And then, when you see your ex, use that big beautiful confident smile every time you see him. It's your way to let him know "you're doing so much better without him!" And if that smile doesn't work, God also gave you 2 middle fingers.....and who doesn't like a lil sign language in their lives! Let em fly!!!